Guru Maharaj:  There are many reasons why we may not be able to help someone. Just like a father, he doesn’t like to hear instructions from his daughter. And in various circumstances, the relationship may be such that we cannot really instruct a person who is senior to you, or who thinks he or she is a senior. So in such a situation, you have to help the person using some tactic. Either by asking a question, I look to you, you are a very advanced person, you are very senior, but I have a question, I see that sometimes you go behind the bathroom and smoke a cigarette! Is this something I should do as well?!  You can ask – of course, it was a ridiculous example but. But if you cannot help the person, then you think who can, and arrange with that person does what he or she can, to help the person. Hare Krishna!