Jayapataka Swami: Certainly if one is inflicting atrocities on a Vaisnavi, it is a Vaisnava aparadha. If one will act in this way, how will he go back to Godhead, back to the Lord? The Bhāgavatam tells us that a husband should never fight or quarrel with the wife in this way. But sometimes the ladies, they become a little emotional. But it is the duty of the man to not come down to that low level. I have not entered into gṛhastha asrama, I never married, but the scriptures say that when a man is in this kind of a situation, he should simply leave that place, go outside, cool off his head and then return home.